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Us Weekly recapped that about a year ago, Eva filed for divorce from San Antonio Spurs point guard Tony Parker after three years of marriage. She had discovered hundreds of inappropriate text messages between Tony and Erin Barry, then the wife of Parker's teammate Brent Barry.
Us reported that Eva told Spanish Vanity Fair, "It stands to reason that I should be angry and resentful. But I am not." One reason for the forgiving attitude? Eduardo Cruz. Eva first stepped out with the singer (and younger brother to actress Penelope Cruz) in February 2011, and they're still going strong today."I was very lucky to find Edu," she gushed, using her endearing nickname for him.
I won't go into detail about how Ellen and Sherrie say that it's a "no-no" for a celebrity woman to gush about her man to the press. I don't like this part of her interview so much. She could have said she wasn't bitter about Tony without mentioning "Edu."
However, I want to make a different point with this post that women must understand. Notice how Eva didn't go into seclusion and swear off men? She got out there and started dating. Kudos to her for beating Tony to the punch. Eva is dating someone new and obviously enjoying life. She has no time to wallow in bitterness. Even if it doesn't end up in marriage, she didn't sit around crying over Tony, endlessly lamenting "what should have been."
I read the comments that people leave on celebrity websites about women who move on quickly after a break-up or divorce. They sneer, "Wow, she doesn't waste any time moving on." Almost as if she should be walking around in a black lace veil in order for the court of public opinion to find her conduct proper.
I couldn't disagree more. First, were a man to cheat on me, I owe him nothing in terms of grieving the end of our relationship. Second, where is it written that a woman must grieve? Some will say, "she should grieve for a month, or three months, or six months, one year to play it safe." It is so arbitrary.
My stance is vastly different. Women should get happy as soon as possible after a break-up. If that happiness is with a man, so be it. Any moment of a woman's life that she gets back not being miserable over an ex is a blessing. She should never feel guilty for being happy. Ever. That's insanity. And no one should ever tell her otherwise.
I won't go into detail about how Ellen and Sherrie say that it's a "no-no" for a celebrity woman to gush about her man to the press. I don't like this part of her interview so much. She could have said she wasn't bitter about Tony without mentioning "Edu."
However, I want to make a different point with this post that women must understand. Notice how Eva didn't go into seclusion and swear off men? She got out there and started dating. Kudos to her for beating Tony to the punch. Eva is dating someone new and obviously enjoying life. She has no time to wallow in bitterness. Even if it doesn't end up in marriage, she didn't sit around crying over Tony, endlessly lamenting "what should have been."
I read the comments that people leave on celebrity websites about women who move on quickly after a break-up or divorce. They sneer, "Wow, she doesn't waste any time moving on." Almost as if she should be walking around in a black lace veil in order for the court of public opinion to find her conduct proper.
I couldn't disagree more. First, were a man to cheat on me, I owe him nothing in terms of grieving the end of our relationship. Second, where is it written that a woman must grieve? Some will say, "she should grieve for a month, or three months, or six months, one year to play it safe." It is so arbitrary.
My stance is vastly different. Women should get happy as soon as possible after a break-up. If that happiness is with a man, so be it. Any moment of a woman's life that she gets back not being miserable over an ex is a blessing. She should never feel guilty for being happy. Ever. That's insanity. And no one should ever tell her otherwise.
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